Individual Relationship Therapy online and in Eastbourne.
Make sense of yourself. Make sense of your world.
For adults, young people and teens 12+. Online across the Uk and in Eastbourne.
Evolving Sense Therapy is run by Eefje, an accredited counsellor and psychotherapist with the National Counselling and Psychotherapy Society (NCPS), offering individual relationship counselling and psychotherapy for adults and young people aged 12 and over. She can help exploring how family experiences and patterns in relationships and friendships shape your sense of self, self-worth and relationships today. Sessions are available online across the UK and in person at Elm Grove Rooms in Eastbourne.
Sessions cost £60 for 50 minutes and begin with a free 15-minute introductory conversation.
Which of these brought you here?
Perhaps something feels difficult to understand. The same situation keeps happening, relationships leave you feeling unsettled, or you’ve lost touch with what you really feel and need. You might recognise yourself in one of these areas. Often, they are connected.
Family Dynamics
You find yourself affected by family relationships, even though you wish they could be different. You may…
• feel responsible for other people’s emotions.
• struggle with other people’s expectations.
• feel scared of conflict.
• find old feelings resurface around certain people.
• feel misunderstood and find yourself over-explaining.
Relationship Difficulties
You notice familiar situations repeating themselves in your relationships and wonder why they are so difficult to change. You may…
• repeat the same arguments.
• find it hard to express your needs or set boundaries.
• overthink conversations or worry about how others see you.
• shut down when things become heated.
• you feel anxious or alone in your relationships.
Sense of self
You may have become so used to putting other people first that it is difficult to know what you feel, need or want. You may…
• doubt yourself or feel not good enough.
• put others first and minimise your own needs.
• feel like you don’t know who you are anymore.
• feel overwhelmed or numb.
• feel yourself withdrawing from others.
• feel lost or stuck.
Sometimes we don’t know where to start. You can start where you are now.
Hi, I am Eefje,
a counsellor and psychotherapist working with individuals online across the UK and in Eastbourne.
Some people come to me knowing exactly what they want to explore. Others feel lost and aren’t sure where to begin.
We’ll work together to help you learn things that will stay with you beyond our sessions, to figure out what is happening and explore different ways forward. Alongside talking, we may use tools and creative exercises to help explore experiences that can be difficult to put into words. I’ll ask questions, share my thoughts or theory and point out patterns where they may be useful.
Therapy for adults
Together, we can take time to understand what you’re experiencing, explore patterns in your relationships and how you see yourself, and consider different ways forward.
Therapy for young people
Growing up can bring questions about who you are, struggles with friendships, family relationships and the pressures of school. Together, we can look at what’s happening and try to make sense of it.
Understanding the patterns
Our experiences and relationships can shape how we see ourselves, what we expect from others and how we respond when things become difficult.
In therapy, we can explore where these patterns may have come from, how they affect you now and what other possibilities might feel right for you.
The aim isn’t to tell you what to do or who to be, but to help you understand yourself more fully and find your own way forward.
Ready to take the first step?
Sometimes it’s difficult to know where to begin. You don’t need to have everything worked out before getting in touch.
Free 15-minute conversation
A chance to meet, ask questions and see whether working together feels like the right fit.
Online psychotherapy
50 minutes • £60.
Book a session directly if you’re ready to begin.
Psychotherapy in Eastbourne
You don't have to have all the answers.
Other experiences we can explore.
Therapy can also be a space to explore anxiety and overwhelm, low mood, childhood experiences, trauma, life transitions, self esteem, neurodivergence and difficulties with friendships, school refusal, professional and emotional burnout.
These experiences don’t always sit neatly in one category. We can explore how they affect you what they mean in the context of your life and relationships.
My location
Elm Grove Rooms, 6 Elm Grove, Eastbourne BN22 9NW
Contact me
Feel free to email me to find out more about counselling and availability.
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Make sense of yourself, make sense of your world. Individual relationship psychotherapy for adults and young people. Online across the UK and in Eastbourne.